The “Real Housewives of Orange County” star, 43, came out on Wednesday in an interview with GLAAD, proudly saying, “I like women. I’m gay.”
“I’m a member of the LGBTQ+ community,” she said. “It has taken me 42 years to say that but I am so proud of where I am right now. I’m so happy where I am. To be able to be comfortable in my own skin after so long is just so nice.”
The mom of seven also addressed her 20-year marriage to husband Sean Burke, saying, “I love Sean. I love him dearly, he is my person, he is my family. But I’m not attracted to men and I never have been.”
Although the two are still married and she “plans on staying married” — despite not sleeping in the same bedroom — Windham-Burke does have a girlfriend. And Sean knows her, as the women spend time together at the Windham-Burke house.
Windham-Burke said in October that she and Sean were living apart.
In her GLAAD interview, Windham-Burke also addressed her make-out scene with Tamra Judge last season, confessing that she told a producer that the kiss wasn’t an accident.
“I had a scene with Tamra that everyone kind of talked about,” she said. “When we were getting ready for the reunion I was talking to a producer that I trust a lot, his name was James, and he said, ‘How do you feel about this? Was it a drunken mistake or is this a part of who you are?’ And I said, ‘This is who I am.’”
She added, “When I went to the reunion last year I kind of started baby-stepping into, ‘This is who I am. I like women.’ I was testing the waters with my friends, my cast, my family.”
She further credited her newfound sobriety for her ability to live as her true self.
“I know there’s a correlation between the two,” she said. “I know when you get sober and you start doing the work that goes into that, you start realizing a lot of the reasons you drank had to do with who you were on the inside.”